Another Trip. At Least I Didn't Lose My Head - Rev. JT. Smith

 While, unlike my trip to Mars this past July, I haven't been wanting to make this trip for decades, It's one that's interested me as a potential destination for a while.  Considering that it's nearly Halloween, it's appropriate that I wore my Halloween costume.

Due to its relative proximity to my domicile, this was merely a day trip.  And this time I had a couple friends with me for the ride.  Welcome to Sleepy Hollow, made famous by Washington Irving's short story The Legend Of Sleepy Hollow.

 

Go figure, the trip didn't go completely smoothly.  That my transit route took us through the Holland Tunnel (from my numerous trips to Long Island over the years) was an active choice on my part as I'm already with the traffic patterns there and, based on the map, looked to be relatively straight forward.  What I hadn't realized was just how much of Manhattan I was still contending with.  I also didn't realize that I was going to be going through Yonkers.  At least I didn't get lost.

One glitch actually worked out as a blessing in disguise.  For various reasons that are neither germane nor to be taken as an opinion, I don't generally carry much change on me.  Especially change for parking meters as I can typically avoid them.  Of course, that wasn't the case for Sleepy Hollow in late October and my ignorance of both the real layout of the town (maps only tell you so much) was on full display.  Thanks to an unintended later start than intended (just because my alarms are set and go off doesn't mean I necessarily immediately power up to them) and a need to answer nature's call, finding quick parking became something of a priority.

Thankfully, one spot proved immediately available.  As already noted, I didn't have any change for a parking meter.  It turned out that neither did either of my passengers.  Thankfully, a nice couple who were walking their dog had some quarters and gave them to us.  They'd already left before I discovered that the parking meter didn't work.

Of course, about an hour later we stumbled across the municipal car park.  And it was full.  No surprise on that last.

It's also no surprise that Sleepy Hollow fully played up on their ties to Washington Irving's story.  The  image of the headless horseman is emblazoned on all the street signs, etc.  It's even on the fire trucks from both fire departments.

Between one of my friends having difficulty with walking longer distances and hills, and the later than intended start, I didn't get to explore as much as I would have liked.  That didn't stop me from finding a location in town that is described by Washington Irving in the story, and serves as visual proof I was there.

I still haven't figured out what so caught the attention of the chap behind me.

The transit back took longer than the transit out.  Yet another glitch.  Because I know that trying to take the George Washington Bridge cannot be accurately described without "cluster" being attached to one of the words, and my familiarity with the Holland Tunnel, I tried setting my satnav to take me via that route.  The result was that I ended up in Brooklyn and no where near the tunnel.

Ultimately, we were able to re-traverse the tunnel and I was able to get everyone home safely.

I think I'll try again next year.  Only either alone or with different passengers, and maybe a little earlier in the month.  Although I have no doubt that Sleepy Hollow is like Mars in that it'd be a nice place to visit any time of the year, I also suspect that October is the best month considering the obvious tie-in between The Legend Of Sleepy Hollow and Halloween.

by Rev. J.T. Smith

Something I've Been Wanting To Do For A Long Time - Rev. J.T. Smith

From July 7 - 9, 2022, I finally made a trip that, at least part of, I've been wanting to do for over 30 years.  Granted, there are parts that that were really just lucky bonuses that I'm simply glad happened.

 

 

July 7, 2022: Greetings from the Hard Rock Cafe in Pittsburgh. I took that after getting my hotel room.  This is one of the bonuses, frankly.  In 1989, I was able to visit the Hard Rock Cafe in London.  That's where I originally got the cap I'm wearing in the picture.  (Unfortunately, even if I could relocate the t-shirt I got from the Hard Rock Cafe in New York City, I sincerely doubt that it would fit me anymore after all the weight I've put on since the stroke I survived in 2013.)  On June 20 of this year, I finally made it to the Hard Rock Cafe in Philadelphia, which is where I got the t-shirt I'm wearing in this picture.  While I finally started laying the ground work for this trip shortly before I went to the Hard Rock in Philadelphia, it wasn't until I went there that I decided to go to the one in Pittsburgh.  Other than cost of heating there, they're really fun to go to.

Greetings from Pittsburgh from just outside the Hard Rock Cafe there.  You'd never know from this picture that it was gone 9 PM at night when I took it nor that it was much darker out at the time. 

 

Taken within moments of the first, just east along the river.

 

Pittsburgh skyline outside of the Hard Rock Cafe (which was behind me and to my right).

 

July 8, 2022: Greetings from Mars.  I've been wanting to go there ever since 1990 when The Morning Call had a sweepstakes tying to the original Total Recall where the winner would get an all expensed paid trip to Mars [Pennsylvania].  I couldn't go then for numerous reasons.  Now I can finally say I've been to Mars.  It's a tiny little town, but I knew that before making the 350+ mile trip out there.  Since I had no particular expectations, I couldn't be disappointed. 😎

 

These were taken in a small community museum at the old train station in Mars.  They're only open 4 hours on Fridays and run by local volunteers.  Which means I got lucky as I scheduled this trip around my work schedule and other than generally looking around just to say I'd been there I hadn't thought about museums, etc.  The one on the right is is a closeup of the book. It was the tag is that grabbed my attention. 😁  

 

This was in a small room on the side of what to be an active auto repair garage that focused on antique vehicles and is adjacent to the museum.  Go figure they have a Mars fixation in their movie posters. 

 

Since I still had plenty of time on Friday, I went to the Evans City Cemetery where the opening of the original Night Of The Living Dead was filmed.  While I hadn't found the exact spot yet, at least I've seen that Rape has died.

 

Still trying to find the original location used in The Night Of The Living Dead.

 

I was trying to do this from memory as, while I've only seen the movie once a few years ago (thanks to Svengoolie on MeTV) I'm clearly an idiot.  I finally resorted to using the live view function in Google Maps to try to locate actual site.  What initially confused me was that when using that function they'll give you a still picture of your destination to compare it to, only the headstone in that comparison still was a completely different style.  When I later looked for stills from the movie, the headstone matches this.

 

I located this in Evans City.  Definitely a misnomer as it's really a small town.  A larger small town, but a small town nevertheless. 😎  To be fair, Night Of The Living Dead is far from my favourite movie.  I just think it's cool to have been able to go here and see where parts of the movie were filmed.

 

 

 

 

 

Basically, this is also the movie that put Evans City on the map.

 

I found the fountain of youth. (Now if it just weren't contaminated.)  This is the link that led me to it and explains its background.

 

 

This is just some things I picked up so that I can demonstrate, beyond my photos, that I've been to Mars. 😁

 

 

July 9, 2022: This is the actual location and angle where the couple at the beginning of Night Of The Living Dead was shot.  I took this on my final day of my trip before returning to my domicile, which I affectionately refer to as Area51, on the opposite side of the state.

 

Since I wasn't looking at a deadline in terms of getting back I, unlike on my trip out resulting in my primarily sticking to Interstate highways, I instead took the scenic and shorter route.  As a result, one of my pit stops was Lincoln Caverns & Whispering Rocks (which actually consists of 2 separate caverns in relatively close proximity to each other though they were formed about 4 million years apart).  I'd frankly forgotten just how treacherous the stairways in them could be.  That didn't stop me from doing it though.  Slowed me down, but didn't stop me. 😎

 

This was taken from the lowest point in Lincoln Caverns, the lower of the two. 120 feet below the surface.  Impossible is for the lazy.

 

While somewhat closer to the surface, don't let the lighting fool you. These were taken deep in the cave.  I admit, I probably should have tried night mode on my mobile phone's camera.

 

 

This entrance to Whisper Rocks is literally the highest point I reached here.  And yes, I went in there, too.  (I just didn't think to take any pictures inside.)

 

This is the top of the stairs you have to climb just to get to/from Lincoln Caverns.  Whisper Rocks is higher still up the hill and is reached via a well maintained path.  I definitely got my exercise in here. 😁😎

 

Part of the reason I went here as a pit stop was because I saw the signs for Lincoln Caverns and couldn't actually remember if I'd ever been there before.  When I was little, we used to go to the various caves/caverns across much of PA as well as the Shenandoah Valley, etc.  Even once I arrived here, I still wasn't certain.  The tour group consisted of the tour guide, myself, and a family of 4 who were traveling to near Hershey from Erie.  So I wasn't alone in that regard.  I simply had no passengers aboard Darkwind (people name their boats, I name my cars/trucks,etc.).  Once we reached the original entrance to Lincoln Caverns, that's when it all felt familiar to me.  Granted, the last time I was there I was around 9 or so.  I've been wanting to something like this since the stroke, but usually I figured on going to Lost River Caverns as it's relatively small and very local to where I live.  Lincoln Caverns is literally along Rte 22 (or is it old Rte 22?) and was not in the slightest out of my way.  Not remembering it (unlike Lost River Caverns, which I've been to numerous times over the years) just made it both more interesting and compelling.  It also allowed me to prove to myself that, even though I'm no longer able to move as quickly as I used to, I'm still able to enjoy going to public caves again.  It may not seem like much, but one more barrier created by my stroke has fallen.

 

I returned to Area51 from my trip late that night.   While I haven't figured it all yet, I'm hoping for more road trips in my future.

 

by Rev. J.T. Smith

We Desperately Need To Get Off Oil, But Batteries Are A Bad Idea For Fueling Vehicles! - Rev. J.T. Smith

I am in no way supporting Big Oil with what I'm about to say as petrol as a fuel is an environmental disaster.  There is no denying that at all.

That said, batteries are not the right way to go either for several reasons.

One of which is that batteries all wear out eventually.  Just look to your mobile phone and you'll realize this.  Then again, far too many feel a desperate need to always have the latest and greatest product and update their mobile phone every year or so.  A fact that manufacturers don't only realize but actively count on and encourage this behaviour.  Consumerism at all costs.  Great for the bottom lines of corporations around the world but utter shit for the environment.

Car companies, including Tesla, are counting on this short-sighted behaviour too.  Though of course they won't admit it as that would be bad for sales.

One of the more subtle ways of encouraging this is to place in the instructions that come with the device, including electric cars, the notion that batteries supposedly no longer develop a memory the way nickle-cadmium [Ni-Cad] batteries used to so you should recharge them once they drop to 15% rather than run them flat first before recharging.  They tell you this, not because they really want you to get the most life out of your battery (FYI, there's zero profit in it for corporations for you to not have to replace the batteries sooner!), but because they want to sell you more batteries and/or a new device sooner.

These days, the only thing that's kept around longer than the rechargeable batteries that run them are vibrators.  Then again, a dead vibrator is still a dildo. 

Now, I grant that lithium ion [Li-Ion] batteries don't develop a memory the way that Ni-Cad ones did, they do still develop that memory only over a longer period of time.  Longer enough, the manufacturers figure, that you'll be throwing out your old device and replacing it with a new one before the battery will no longer hold a charge.  But if you really want your rechargeable batteries to actually last as long as they can before they're permanently dead, then you should always run them until they're flat before you recharge them and you should recharge them until they're fully recharged before using them again.

In the meantime there's still the matter of the fact that it still takes hours to fully recharge a battery from flat (the more powerful the batteries, the longer it takes to recharge them); and as noted earlier, if you don't run the battery to flat prior to fully recharging completely you will shorten the total overall life of the battery.  (This is the end result of the aforementioned memory.)  I know this for a fact by taking two identical modern mobile phones (I inadvertently got two identical handsets, one from each of two people, due to my previous mobile phone dying completely after 4 years of service, and I kept the second as a backup) and ran the first one battery to flat every time prior to fully recharging.  That handset started getting a bit worn so I started using the second handset fresh from the box.  Only with the second handset I decided to go against my better judgement and started recharging every day or so regardless of how low the battery was.  The end result was that the battery of the second handset ended up needing to be recharged as often after one year as the first one did after two hours.  Now, neither handset will last 24 hours before going flat. And unlike Top Gear, who would fake things to get their end result, I didn't fake any of it.  That's because batteries typically lose approximately 80% of their capacity after a couple of years.

Regardless, if you do decide to keep your electric vehicle for long enough, you'll have to deal with the battery.  While some companies like Nissan are trying to make it that you would only have to replace a bad cell rather than the entire battery replace the entire battery, it's currently more common and more likely that your dealer won't be the ones to deal with individual cells; so you'll still end up having to replace the battery outright to keep that car going the way petrol fueled vehicles can currently.  At which point you have a piece of trash that still contains components that still can't be recycled; and that, in turn, continues to have a toxic environmental impact.  Yes, more of the components can be recycled, but the cost of lithium is low right now because the relative demand is low currently, but that'll change over time.  And all of this presumes you'll still be able to get a matching replacement battery when the time comes, anyway.

I fully acknowledge the fact that petrol fuel is an environmental disaster, but one of the advantages of a liquid fuel is that as long as the engine/motor still uses that fuel then it doesn't matter what shape the fuel tank takes as long as it fits into the hull of the vehicle.  And replacing a liquid fuel tank is a lot cheaper than replacing the battery on an electric vehicle.  And one of the beautiful things about classic cars is that we can still drive them now, decades after they were manufactured.  If the trend of throwing away battery operated devices, either as soon as or before the batteries will no longer hold a charge, then things like classic car shows will be a thing of the past.  Classic car shows aren't  singing the praises of Big Oil; they're showcases of lasting and durable engineering and works of art created from metals.

Even more troubling than the technical issues, there's still the slave labour and environmental problems inherent in the manufacture of batteries.

We would do far better with a hybrid car consisting of a hydrogen fuel cell backed up with solar panels.  But thanks to irrational fears due to a misunderstanding of just what downed the Hindenburg, it'll be a long time before this is more widely accepted.  And thanks to current economics, it'll be cheaper to replace an entire vehicle than only the battery when the battery can no longer hold a charge.  Batteries are a stopgap measure at best.

by  Rev. J.T. Smith

"Earning" A Rebate? - Rev. J.T. Smith

 These days you'll see adverts like this from Rakuten 

 with taglines like: "Stores pay us. We pay you." (FYI, this is actually a rebate) or articles like this one titled "How I earned more than $2,500 using credit cards in 2020.  These cards helped me earn a 4.1% rate of return on spending last year" found on creditcards.com.  It has always bothered me when I see articles and adverts claiming people are getting paid and/or that they're "earning money" when in reality they're only getting a rebate.  

Please understand that I am not opposed to getting a rebate from a company or cash back from a credit card company per se, but claiming that I am being paid or have somehow earned that discount (especially in terms of a rebate) is very misleading.  Rebates are best recognized as large companies acknowledging that they are vastly over charging for their goods and/or services, and that cash back or points from credit card companies are simply another form of rebate that is simply processed from another source.

What's even worse is when companies tell you that the cost for something is $X without informing you that you get that price after a mail-in rebate.  Pep Boys pulled that one on me once when I was in need of an an oil change.  I was quoted $19.99 for the oil change when I called ahead to find out the price so that I could be certain I had enough money available to pay for it (I did not have any credit cards at all at the time and being a non-pizza food delivery driver my personal available cash on hand was typically tight).  It wasn't until my car was on the rack and the oil change was in progress that I spotted a sign informing me that the up front price for the oil change was $49.99, the $19.99 was after a $20 mail-in rebate.  I was lucky that I had just enough money to pay the bill but no ability to make change for my next delivery.  To add insult to injury, I never did receive the rebate.  Pep Boys will never again be allowed to work on any vehicle I own.

No one actually earns a rebate or the cash back that credit card customers can receive.  It is that belief that people are "being paid for shopping" that has allowed pyramid schemes like Amway to stay in business and that leads so many people to get into financial trouble with their credit cards!

Yes, you can get good discounts from credit cards and rebates, and you're better off if you can simultaneously stack those discounts for the same purchase.  I am not denying that fact.  But, let's call it what it really is: Cash back from credit cards are rebates, and any rebate is nothing more than a delayed discount that's saving you some money, but not a paycheque.

 - Rev. J.T. Smith

Bernie Sanders Just Stabbed Us In The Back And Screwed Us As A Result - Rev. J.T. Smith

Bernie Sanders had been running a campaign that fought for We The People over the wealthy and corporations, that was consistently against the forever wars, and recognized how much the inequality in America has hurt us all.

#NotMeUs.  Ha!  Us are boned now, thank you very much.

Sanders and Warren were the ONLY  true Progressive candidates to run.  My hope had been that Warren and Bernie would run together.

Now?

Bernie has bowed out of the run for the nomination.  He says he'll keep fighting the fight, but he just gave up his best potential avenue to fight for us: As the President.

If you believe that the only viable political parties are Democrats and Republicans, the Bernie has just screwed us!  Our options are a bigot Republican and a bigot corporate Democrat.  I seriously do not see a whole lot of difference here.  While I grant that Biden is somewhat saner than Trump. the end result is still the same: The wealthy are still going to be in charge and the wars are going to keep on going until a real leader steps up and is put in office!

I had believed that leader to be Bernie Sanders.  Clearly, I was in error.

Gee, thanks, Bernie! 

by Rev. J.T. Smith

Major Problem With The Coronavirus Reporting - Rev. J.T. Smith

While there is no question that the COVID-19 coronavirus is a serious issue, the media have been exaggerating the problem.  Suspicion is not knowledge, and a presumptive case is not a confirmed case.

In Pennsylvania as of March 14, 2020, there are reported to be 41 cases of COVID-19, 35 presumptive positive cases and six confirmed. That is bad reporting as suspicion, regardless of the probability of accuracy, is still not knowledge.  Presumption is based on probability, and while something has a high probability of being the case it would be far better to stick with reporting only the confirmed cases.

Not only that, but pushing hand sanitizer, which while being antibacterial isn't effective against viral infections, is nothing more than a placebo that in the long run helps to create the superbugs that resist antibiotics due to overuse.

Obviously freedom of the press is important, and I am not suggesting otherwise; but, the government's reporting presumptive cases as actual cases is only serving to foment fear and panic.

What's more is the fact that the massive quarantine was never put in place to combat a frankly bigger threat to human health, even with the vaccine that's relatively readily available,  that has been well known for a long time now: Influenza.  Then again, humans panic so easily when confronted with a new unknown.

And while I am not prone to conspiracy theories in general, I have noticed that the quarantine measures now in place handily circumvent the First Amendment's protections ["Congress shall make no law respecting . . . the right of the people peaceably to assemble"] and quash the myriad protests (e.g. protests against any/all of Trump's scandals, protests against the police, et al) that have been taking in America for the last three years and more.

The COVID-19 coronavirus issue has been blown vastly out of proportion in this country, allowing fear to take over from rational thought from the public and harming more people than merely those even potentially at risk from this virus.

Either way, it does help to show how much better Bernie Sanders' Medicare For All would be than what's currently available; but while Sanders' Medicare For All would help the medical system issues under the circumstances, it still leaves hourly workers, the unemployed, and small business owners high and dry if this situation lasts for too much longer.

- Rev. J.T. Smith

Daylight Saving Time - Rev. J.T. Smith

Once again we've gone through the twice-a-year time warp from the clocks throughout most of America being moved ahead an hour.  And once again there are numerous people complaining about the inconvenience.

Naturally, there's an accompanying push-back due to that inconvenience where people want only one time-set.  Truth be told,  I also wish the ritual was finally done away with; however, I disagree with anyone and everyone who wants to eliminate Daylight Savings Time [DST].  Their reasoning is that they don't want to lose that hour of sleep when the clocks jump forward, nor do they want to lose the extra hour of sleep when the clocks fall back.

Admittedly, I can empathize with that line of reasoning, but it's frankly shortsighted.

My preference, along with the preference of Benjamin Franklin, who initiated the concept of daylight savings time, would be to simply remain switched to daylight savings time.  Even with it being darker in the morning during DST.

Granted, if we followed the example of pre-Columbian Native Americans, then we might be happier in general as they never centered their lives around a mechanical device meant to measure the position of the Earth in relation to its relative position on its axis in relation to the sun.

But since we're so programmed to measure every second at a minimum, then I've always concluded that DST is preferable by far.  Ultimately, the length of time the sun shines in comparison to daylight and night time never actually changes, only our perception of it does.

- Rev. J.T. Smith

2020 United States Presidential Election, My Choice - Rev. J.T. Smith

There is no perfect candidate for President.  Ever.  This is simply because perfection, aside from God, is purely subjective.

Of course, there will always be candidates that are better than others.  In 2016, I supported Bernie Sanders in the primary and hated the way the D.N.C. blew him off as viable candidate even though he was able to consistently draw more people to his rallies than any other candidate.  Go figure.

In 2016, I ultimately voted for Jill Stein because I couldn't in good conscience vote for Hillary Clinton or Donald Trump [see It's Neither A Spoiler Nor A Protest Vote! by Rev. J.T. Smith for full account of exactly why] as she was the best available candidate.

Once again, Bernie is running for President, and he is once again my choice for President.  My reasoning is thus: Bernie Sanders has been leading the fight since well before the 2016 elections, including steadfastly and consistently fighting for We The People and against the corruption and warmongering so prevalent in government.  And he's also the first to propose Medicare For All, which eliminates all deductibles and co-pays with the exception of elective non- medically procedures.  No one is perfect, but he's the best choice of candidate.

Voting for a person strictly because of their gender or sexuality is a mistake.  Yes, it is long past time for a woman or a member of the LGBT+ community to become president, there is no question of that; but as with any position of authority, it needs to be the right person, regardless of gender or sexuality, to be voted into power.  
While I find it commendable that Pete Buttigieg is open about his sexual orientation while running for President, I cannot vote for him simply because he's a corporate Democrat.  And corporate Democrats, which are nearly as bad as the Republicans currently in power are among the last things Americans need voted into office.
I cannot vote for Amy Klobuchar for simple reason she's effectively Hillary Clinton lite.  Still a corporate Democrat, even if not quite as deep into the pockets of Wall Street.

Tom Steyer, like Mike Bloomberg, is yet another billionaire running for President, and America definitely never needs another billionaire as president.  And like Steyer and Bloomberg, Joe Biden is yet another corporate Democrat.

To make it worse, Biden and Bloomberg are also notorious bigots.  And while Tulsi Gabbard seems to barely register in the polls compared to the others who're still running, I do like that she's Hindu and running against the endless wars, but she also has a history of bigotry and troubling past actions in terms of her foreign policy positions solidly working against her.

The only major issue I have with Warren is her relative inexperience compared to Sanders.

Frankly, my current dream ticket is Sanders/Warren with Sanders as president for eight years followed by Warren for the following eight years.  Though I would accept Warren as President with Sanders as VP for the same eight years followed by Sanders as President for eight years.

Ultimately, I am still not a liberal Democrat, I'm a progressive independent; and if a superior third-party contender runs for President, then I'll vote for them.  At present, that doesn't seem likely regardless of the party.

- Rev. J.T. Smith

Trust, Respect . . . And Beauty - Rev. J.T. Smith

Trust, Respect . . . And Beauty

Both trust and respect should always be earned rather than treated as some form of a door prize to be handed out to anyone who shows up or just happens to be in any kind of position of authority (e.g. parents/elders, teachers, the police/military personnel, any part of the government, the media, et al).  And just as actions speak louder than words, albeit not as often, a person's actions are the best and surest method of determining whether or not they deserve your trust or respect, if ever.  Neither trust nor respect should ever be treated as absolutes unless they have earned either of those; and if anyone should ever abuse you personally or their position of power in general, then that trust and/or respect should be revoked.

In reality, the word "respect" gets thrown around far too readily and nearly everyone seems to demand it these days.  We're told that everyone deserves respect at all times.  The fact is that people erroneously use the term "respect" when they should be using the phrase "common courtesy."  In his article "Command, Don't Demand Respect: Giving Respect Without Feeling It Inside Is Pretentious. Insisting On Such Respect Is False Pride," Manoj Khatri said: "All around us, we see people demanding/giving respect for all the wrong reasons.  In your family, respect your elders whether or not they deserve it.  At school/college, respect your teachers, doesn't matter if they can't teach anything.  At work, respect your seniors, regardless of how competent they are."

As stated earlier, respect, like trust, needs to be earned rather than simply given or expected.  While it has been said that respect is neither imposed nor begged, it's earned and offered, it has also been rightly observed that if you have to demand respect then you don't deserve it.  Even though at the end of the day you will never get to determine or decide how or when, if ever, anyone respects or trusts you, it is you who should be the one to decide who you respect and/or trust and by what individual criteria you use to determine who, when, and how anyone earns either from you.  And we should all be working to earn that trust or respect if we desire it from others.

Bear in mind also that trust and respect are not mutually inclusive.  While you can trust that a peer may do their duties to the best of their ability, it doesn't automatically mean that you do or should respect them as their other actions towards you or others might not warrant it.  Conversely, while you obviously won't trust an enemy, you might still respect them for their cunning, skill, or some other attribute that you find worthy of respect.

How does the concept of beauty fit into all of this?  We're essentially told by the media who we should find beautiful or that somehow beauty is a valid method for automatic judgment of a person.  The reality is that beauty is simply a combination of qualities (e.g. shape, colour, or form) that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially sight.  Sadly, the media (which in terms of determining "beauty" seems to be the accepted "authority" on the subject, an authority it doesn't deserve in reality as beauty is a subjective matter of opinion and we should be capable of making up our own minds based on our own individual aesthetic) continually focuses myopically on women's appearance while focusing on nearly every other attribute of men.  While the apparent majority of media will do this, it doesn't mean that everyone does. 

Since a person's physical appearance is the first thing we see when we look at a person and quite often it's the only part of a person we will ever be able to "interact" with on any level, particularly in terms of celebrities, we'll often say (even if only in our own minds) or post online "so-and-so is beautiful/sexy/pretty/hot/etc." when we see someone whose features or attributes fit within our personal aesthetic; and that action may seem shallow to others observing.  Of course, some people are simply that shallow.  Mind you, those statements aren't limited solely to stated observations by males. 

But that physical appearance neither determines nor denotes either intelligence or personality.  How can anyone ascertain another person's intelligence unless we're able to interact, most often talk, with them?  At that we usually base our conclusions about a person's intelligence far more on the way that person speaks rather than on how they look.  As for personality, once we encounter it, it will for many of us adjust how we see that person, either augmenting or diminishing their "beauty" in our eyes. 

Whereas we have to earn the respect and trust of others, we cannot earn beauty.  That said, like trust and respect, no one else can decide or determine for us who or what we find beautiful.  And though we have the absolute right to think of ourselves as beautiful in whatever form or capacity, and we should never let others determine how we perceive ourselves, we simply can't force or expect others to agree with our sense of aesthetic.  Beauty is an opinion, but it is our own opinion.

by Rev. J.T. Smith

Dealing With Offense (Updated) - Rev. J.T. Smith

I initially wrote the following in February 2015 as an article for the Wellspring Clubhouse's newsletter, which was published.  On December 4, 2016, upon starting this blog (which I admit I need to post to more often), I posted this article as the inaugural article, with a graphic attached so I could post it to my Pinterest page. 

Having attended a training regarding "recovery language" and the words/phrases that are now considered "offensive" on 11/22/19, it strikes me as apropos to share it with you, though updated slightly as a result of/response to that training.  [This article, with the exceptions of a direct quote used in the article and the graphics at the end, is solely me.  And the coarse language found in the primary quote is in fact a direct quote.  I do not expect anyone to agree with me.  As the title of my blog says, this is Food For Thought.]

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No matter what you do, no matter how hard you try for otherwise, either you will offend someone or they will offend you.  It’s simply a part of this thing we call life.  There is one thing to realize and remember: The only way you can be offended is if you choose to be offended.

Ultimately, the best way to deal with it is to surprise everyone and choose to not be offended.  Ask yourself why the person is in any way important to you specifically.  Also remember that others won’t necessarily share your viewpoint.  Sometimes, their view will be both negative to your way of thinking and will seem to be narrow-minded and inflexible.  Deciding to be offended will only succeed in giving you extra unneeded “baggage” that will only adversely affect *you*.  You do better to decide to not be offended, try to at least see where their point is coming from, explain your point of view (i.e. have something of a conversation about it), and if you can’t come to a consensus then at most mentally conclude that they’re an idiot and then just go on with your life.

Now there's a movement to change recovery language so as to be "patient first" in an attempt to thwart stigma.  On the surface this sounds noble as fighting and ending stigma is absolutely needed.  Unfortunately, it's focusing on the wrong problem in that it isn't the words "autistic," "autism," "drug addiction," "mental illness," or any of the other related words/terms that are the cause of or carry the stigma; it's the conditions themselves to which those words/terms refer.  Language is reflective of the culture that spawned it.  One anthropological fact is that language follows culture, not the other way around. 

The fact of the matter is that *any* word, phrase, or terminology can be turned into a pejorative regardless of how innocent that word, phrase, or terminology is, just as anything said can become sexualized even when the word/phrase isn't sexual in and of itself.

At the end of the 20th century and the beginning of the 21st, it was decided to refer to people with various physical/mental health issues as "special" as it was considered a positive and affirming word.  We no longer say "special" because it quickly became a pejorative term.  And in an effort to thwart the use medical terms in the mental health realm, the terms have become more complex; the result has been an increase of the phrase "I don't know what your problem is, but I bet it's hard to pronounce" as an insult.

In another aspect regarding the fallacy of thinking being "offended" is a useful reaction, an example: While I was still a member of the Wellspring Clubhouse, I was in a conversation with a female friend, and while I don't recall the topic I do remember we were in agreement.  Shortly thereafter in the same day, I was in the library/computer room having a similar conversation with a male acquaintance about the same topic.  While I was describing the prior conversation (without identifying the woman I'd been speaking to due to my privacy protocols), with my lead-in being that I agreed with her, another female member came into the room on unrelated business whereupon she heard part of what I was saying.  Without bothering to learn the context of my remarks, she concluded that she was offended by what I was saying and came to the "defense" of my female friend.  The woman was further offended when I pointed out that, because she was coming into the middle of a conversation with no accurate reference points, she had no idea what she was talking about since I was in fact in agreement with my female friend.  Rather than utilizing logic, the woman who still thought she was defending my friend decided to let her emotions rule regardless of the facts.

[See my article: "Check Your -ism by Rev. J.T. Smith" for further examples.]

Regardless of whether it's in an individual setting or a more institutional one (e.g. job, official or professional situation, et al), being offended solves nothing and does not give you nor anyone else any special rights or privileges.  As Stephen Fry once said: “It's now very common to hear people say, 'I'm rather offended by that.'  As if that gives them certain rights.  It's actually nothing more . . . than a whine.  'I find that offensive.'  It has no meaning; it has no purpose; it has no reason to be respected as a phrase.  'I am offended by that.'  Well, so fucking what." [I saw hate in a graveyard -- Stephen Fry, The Guardian, 5 June 2005]”

Getting and/or being offended solves nothing.  It won’t actually change anything.  Your viewpoints, no matter how well reasoned or even potentially innocent they may be, will still offend someone else.  That’s merely human nature.  Regardless of what far too many people will tell you, you always have a choice (you simply won’t always like the alternatives).  In terms of something, a statement or action that you don’t like for whatever reason, your choices are to be offended or not to be offended.  Make your life so much easier by always choosing to not be offended.

by Rev. J.T. Smith

National Day of mourning

Most people don't know that back in

1912, Hellmann's Mayonnaise was

manufactured in England.  In fact,

the Titanic was carrying 12,000

jars of the condiment scheduled

for delivery in Vera Cruz, Mexico,

which was to be the next port of call

for the great ship after its stop in

New York.  This would have been

the largest single shipment of

mayonnaise ever delivered to Mexico

. . .  But as we know, the great ship

did not make it to New York.  The

ship hit an iceberg and sank.  The

people of Mexico, who were crazy

about mayonnaise, and were eagerly

awaiting its delivery, were disconsolate

at the loss.  Their anguish was so

great, that they declared a National

Day of Mourning.

The National Day of Mourning occurs

each year on May 5 and is known,

of course, as - Sinko De Mayo.

WHAT???  You expected something educational from me?

You need a shot of Tequila.